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V.

TRUE AND FALSE HAPPINESS.

RUE happiness is of a retired nature, and an

Tenemy to pomp and noife. It arifes, in the

first place, from the enjoyment of one's felf; and, in the next, from the friendship and converfation of a few felect companions. It loves fhade and folitude, and naturally haunts groves and fountains, fields and meadows. In fhort, it feels every thing it wants within itself; and receives no addition, from multitudes of witnesses and spectators.

FALSE happiness, on the contrary, loves to be in a croud, and to draw the eyes of the world upon her. She does not receive any fatisfaction from the applaufes which he gives herself, but from the admiration which fhe raises in others. She flouribes in courts and palaces, theatres and affemblies; and has no existence, but when she is looked upon.

AURELIA, though a woman of great quality, delights in the privacy of a country life, and paffes away a great part of her time in her own walks and gardens. Her husband, who is her bofom friend, and companion in her folitudes, has been in love with her ever fince he knew her. They both abound with good fenfe, confummate virtue, and a mutual esteem; and are a perpetual entertainment to one another. Their family is under fo regular an œconomy, in its hours of devotion and repaft, employment and diverfion, that it looks like a little commonwealth within itself. They often go into company, that they may return with the greater de

light to one another; and fometimes live in town, not fo properly to enjoy it, as to grow weary of it, that they may renew in themselves a relish of a country life. By these means, they are happy in each other, beloved by their children, adored by their fervants, and are become the envy, or rather the delight, of all that know them.

How different from this is the life of Fulvia! She confiders her husband as her steward; and looks upon difcretion, and good housewifery, as little domeftic virtues, unbecoming a woman of quality. She thinks life loft in her own family; and fancies herself out of the world, when she is not in the ring, the play-house, or the drawing-room. She lives in a perpetual motion of body, and restleffness of thought; and is never eafy in any one place, when fhe thinks there is more company in another. The miffing of an opera, the first night, would be more afflicting to her. than the death of a child. She pities all the valuable part of her own sex, and calls every woman of a prudent retired life, a poor-fpirited unpolished creature. What a mortification would it be to Fulvia, if she knew, that her fetting herself to view, is but expofing herself; and that the grows contemptible, by being confpicuous.

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VI.

REMARKS ON CONVERSATION.

you wish to please in converfation, never speak to gratify any particular vanity or paffion of your own; but always with a defign, either to divert or inform'

inform the company. of thefe, is always eafy in his difcourfe. He is never out of humour, at being interrupted; because he confiders, that those who hear him, are the beft judges, whether what he was saying, could either divert, or inform them.

A man who only aims at one

WE should talk extremely little of ourselves. Indeed, what can we say? It would be as imprudent to discover our faults, as ridiculous to count over our fancied virtues. Our private, and domeftic affairs, are no less improper to be introduced in converfation. What does it concern the company, how many horfes you keep in your ftables; or whether your fervant is more knave or fool?

A man may equally affront the company he is in, by engroffing all the talk, or obferving a contemptuous filence.

BEFORE you tell a ftory, it may not be amifs to give the company fome idea of the principal perfons concerned in it; the beauty of most things confifting, not so much in their being faid or done, as in their being faid or done by fuch a particular perfon, or on fuch a particular occafion.

NOTHING is more infupportable to men of sense, than an empty formal man, who fpeaks in proverbs, and decides all controverfies with a fhort sentence. This piece of ftupidity is the more infufferable, as it puts on the air of wisdom.

A prudent man will avoid talking much of any particular science, for which he is remarkably famous. There is not, methinks, an hand fomer thing faid of Mr. Cowley, in his whole life, than that none,

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but his intimate friends, ever difcovered he was a great poet, by his discourse. Befides the decency of this rule, it is certainly founded in good policy. A man who talks of any thing he is already famous for, has little to get, but a great deal to lofe. I might add, that he, who is fometimes filent on a fubject, where every one is fatisfied he could fpeak well, will often, be thought no lefs knowing in other matters, where, perhaps, he is wholly igno

rant.

WHENEVER You commend, add your reasons for doing fo: it is this, which distinguishes the approbation of a man of fenfe, from the flattery of fycophants, and the admiration of fools.

RAILLERY is no longer agreeable, than while the whole company is pleafed with it. I would leaft of all be understood to except the perfon rallied.

THOUGH good-humour, fenfe, and difcretion, can feldom fail to make a man agreeable, it may be no ill policy, fometimes, to prepare yourself in a particular "manner for converfation, by looking a little farther than your neighbours, into whatever is become a reigning fubject. If our armies are befieging a place of importance abroad, or our house of commons de bating a bill of confequence at home; you can hardly fail of being heard with pleasure, if you have nicely informed yourfelf of the ftrength, fituation, and hiftory of the former; or of the reafons for, and againft, the latter. It will have the fame effect, if, when any per on begins to make a noise in the world, you can learn fome of the fmallest incidents in his life or converfation; which, though they are too fine for the vulgar, give more fatisfaction to men of fenfe (as they are the beft openings to a real character)

than

than the recital of his moft glaring actions. I know of but one ill confequence to be feared from this method, namely, that, coming full-charged into company, you should refolve to unload, whether an handfome opportunity offers itself or not.

NOTHING is more filly, than the pleasure fome people take, in what they call speaking their minds. A man of this humour, will fay a rude thing, for the mere pleasure of faying it; when an oppofite behaviour, full as innocent, might have preferved his friend, or made his fortune.

I fhall only add, that, befides what I have here faid, there is fomething, which can never be learnt, but in the company of the polite. The virtues of men are catching, as well as their vices; and your own obfervations, added to thefe, will foon difcover, what it is that commands attention in one man, and makes you tired and displeased with the discourse of another.

VII.

IMPORTANCE OF PUNCTUALITY.

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VERY man has daily occafion to remark, what vexations and inconveniencies arife from a difregard of punctuality. Promifes and appointments lose their cogency; and both parties in an affair frequently neglect their ftipulations, because each concludes they will be broken by the other.

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