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dom in breeches. The parting was she opened the top drawer, and a sad one. That chest of drawers took something from the corner. had become a pet of mine. My Ah me! it was a little pair of very soul was locked up in it. I blue mittens my mother had knitted gave it a fond and final furbishing me, and which I must have left on the last morning of my stay, behind on my departure. I took and then left it, as I thought, for- them with a sigh (the hands of her ever. A hundred youthful memo- who wove them will never more lay ries glimmered, like the fancies in blessing on my head !) and measthe poet's magic mirror, from their ured them instinctively across my shining front, when, a day or two palın. What a tiny hand was mine, ago, I again stood before it.
when those lambs' wool mufflers “Royster,” said the old dame, fitted it, and how often it has been " I've had no one who could polish aweary with labor and with pain it since your time.” With which since the last time I put them ou!
Nothing is so delightful as flat- flattery is of a kind that makes you tery. To hear and believe pleasant believe yourself an exceptionally fictions abont one's self is a temp- fine fellow when you are only tation too seductive for weak mor- mean trash," - king of men tals to resist, as the typical legends when you are nothing better or of all mythologies and the private nobler than other common menhistories of most individuals show; making you satisfied with yourself in consequence of which, home when at your worst, then it is an truths to one used to ideal portrai- unmitigated evil; it then becomes ture, come like draughts of " bitter dram-drinking of a very poisonous cup” to the dram-drinker. And kind, which sooner or later does for flattery is dram-drinking: and yet your soul what unlimited blue ruin not quite without good uses to bal- does for your body. But this is ance its undeniable evil, if only it be what we generally mean when we exaggeration, and not wholly false- speak of tattery, and this is the hood; that is, if it assumes as a kind which has got such a deserv. matter of course the presence of edly bad name with moralists of all virtues potential to the character, ages. but not always active, and praises The flatteries of men to women, for what might be if the person and those of women to men, are chose to live up to his best. Many very different in kind and direca weak brother and sister, and all tion. Men flatter women for what children, can be heartened into they are for their beauty, their goodness by a little bit of judicious grace, their sweetness, their charmpraise or flattery, where ponderous ingness in general; while a woman exhortation and grave reproof would will flatter a man for what he does fail ; just as a heavily-laden horse —for his speech last night, of which can be coaxed uphill when the whip she understands little; for his book, and spur would lead to untimely of which she understands less ; or jibbing. If, on the contrary, the for his pleading, of which she un. derstands nothing at all. Not that your advice, particularly-yours this signifies much on either side. above that of all other persons, as
The most unintellectual little the wisest, hest, and most useful to woman in the world has brains be obtained. This, too, is a form enough to look up in your face that belongs rather to women in sweetly, and breathe out something their relations with men, than the that sounds like "beautiful, charm- converse; though sometimes men ing, so clever," vaguely sketching will pretend to want a woman's adthe outline of a hymn of praise to vice about their affairs, and will which your own vanity supplies the perhaps make believe to be guided versicles. For you must have an by it. Not unfrequently, however, exceptionally strong head if you asking one woman's opinion and can rate the sketch at its real value, advice about another is a masked and see for yourself how utterly manner of love-making on its own meaningless it is. You may be the account; though sometimes it may most mystical poet of the day, sug- be done for flattery only, when there gesting to your acutest readers are reasons. Of course not all ad. grave doubts as to your own power vice-asking is flattery; but when of comprehending yourself; or you intended only to please, and not may be the most subtle metaphysi- meant to be genuine, it is perhaps cian, to follow whom in your laby- one of the most potent instruments rinth of reasoning requires per- of the art to be met with. haps the rarest order of brains to There is one kind of flattery be met with ; but you will never- which is common to both men and theless believe any narrow-browed, women, and that is the expressed small-beaded woman who tells you preference of sex. Thus, when in a low, sweet voice, with a gentlemen want to flatter women, they uplifting of her eyes, and a sugges- say how infinitely they prefer their tive curve of the lip, that she has society to that of their own sex; found you both intelligible and and women will say the same to charming, and that she quite agrees men. Or, if they do not say it, with you, and shares your every they will act it. See a set of wosentiment. If she further tells you men congregated together without that all her life long she has thought the light of a inanly countenance in exactly the same way, but was among them. They may talk to wholly unable to express herself, each other certainly; and one or and that you have now supplied two will sit away together anıl disher want and translated into words cuss their private atfairs with aniher vague ideas, and if she says mation; but the great mass of them this with a reverential kind of effu- are only half vitalized while waiting siveness, you are done for, so far as the advent of the men to rouse your critical power goes; and them into life and the desire to should some candid friend, whom please. No man who goes up first, she has not flattered, tell you with and earlier than he was expected, brutal frankness that your bewitch- from the dinner-table, can fail to ing little flatterer has neither the see the change which comes over brains nor the education to under- those wearied, limp, indifferentstand you, you will set him down looking faces and figures as soon as as a slanderer, spiteful and malig. he enters the rooin. He is the nant, and call his candor envy, be- prince whose kiss woke up the cause he has not been so lucky as sleeping beauty, and all her court; yourself. The most subtle form of and can any one say that this is Battery is that which asks your ad- not Aattery of the most delightful vice, with the pretence of needing it kind ? To be the Pygmalion even
for a moment, and for the weakest was so beautiful and seductive in order of soul-giving, is about the the ball-room and the flirting corgreatest pleasure that a man can know, if he is susceptible to the Some men, however, want more finer kinds of flattery.
home flattery to keep them toleraSome women, indeed, not only bly happy and up to the mark than show their preference for men, but any woman with a conscientious reopenly confess it, and confess at the gard for truth can give. Poets and same time to a lofty contempt or ab- artists are of this kind-men who horrence for the society of women. literally live on praise, without These are generally women who are, which they droop and can do nothor who have been, beauties, or who ing. With them it is absolutely have literary and intellectual pre- necessary that the people with tensions, or who despise babies and whom they are associated should contemn housekeeping, and profess be of appreciative and sympathetic themselves unable to talk to other natures; but the burden comes women because of their narrowness heavy when they want, as they genand stupidity. But for the most erally do, so much more than this. part they are women who, by their For, in truth, they want flattery in beauty or their position, have been excess of sympathy; and if they do used to receive extra attention from not get it they hold themselves as men, and thus their preference is the victims of an unkind fate, and not flattery so much as exigeance. fill the world with the echo of their Women who have been in countries woes. This is nine-tenths of the where women are in the minority cause why great geniuses are so in society, are of this kind; and often unhappy in married life. nothing is more amazing to them They demand more, and more inwhen they first come home than the cessant, flattery than can be kept attentions which a certain style of up by one woman, unless she has woman pays to men, instead of de- not only an exceptional power of manding and receiving attentions love, but also an exceptional power from them. These are those sweet, of self-suppression; they think that humble, caressing women who flat- by virtue of their genius they are ter you with every word and look, entitled to a Benjamin's mess of debut whose flattery is nothing but a votion, double that given to other pretty dress put on for show, and men; and when they get only Jutaken off when the show is done dah's share, they cry out that they with. Anything will do for an oc- are ill-used, and make the world casion with some people. Why, think them ill-used as well. But the way in which certain women though a little home-flattery helps will caress a child before you is an the home life immeasurably, and implied tlattery, and they know it. greases the creaking domestic If only they would be careful to wheels more than anything else carry these pretty antenuptial ways can, a great deal is just the most into the home, where nothing is to pernicious thing that can be offered. be gained by them but a humdrum The belief prevalent in some famihusband's happiness! But too often lies that all the very small and comthe woman whose whole attitude monplace members thereof are wonwas one of flattering derotion be- ders and greater than any one else fore her end was gained gives up —that no one is so clever as Harry, every shred of that which she had no one so pretty as Julia, that in such profusion when she has at- Amp's red hair is of a more briltained her object, and lets the home liant gold than can be found elsego absolutely bare of that which where, and Edward's mathematical abilities about equal to Newton's— us. The flattery met with in sothis belief, nourished and acted on, ciety is not often very harmful save is sure to turn out an insufferable to coarse or specially simple nacollection of prigs and self-con- tures. You must be either one or ceited damsels, who have to be the other to be able to believe it. brought down innumerable pegs We must not confound with this before they find their own level. kind of flattery the impulsive exBut we often see this especially in pression of praise or love which country places where there is not certain outspoken people indulge much society to give a standard for in to the last. You may as well comparative measurement; and we try to dam up Niagara as to make know that those fond parents and some folks reticent in any direcdoting relatives are blindly and dili- tion. And when one of this kind gently sowing seeds of bitterness for sees anything that he or she likes, a future harvest of sorrow for their the praise has to come out with darlings. These young people must superlatives if the creature is prone be made to suffer if they are to be to exaggeration.
But this is not of any good whatever in the world; flattery; it is merely want of retiand finding their level, after the cence, and a certain childlikeness exalted position which they have which lasts with some to the end, been supposed to fill so long, and but which very few understand when being pelted with the unsavory mis- they see it, and which subjects its siles of truth in exchange for all possessor to misrepresentation and the incense they have received, will unfriendly jibes, as soon as his or be suffering enough. But it has her back is turned, and the exploto be gone through; this being one sion of exaggerated praise is disof the penalties to wbich the un. cussed critically by the uninterested wisdom of love so often subjects part of the audience.
THE MONTH OF MAY.
DOUBTLESS there was something beside her expiring son upon Golpoetic and even chivalric in the gotha's height, until the present homage paid by the ancients to day, every Catholic has from the Juno, Minerva, Venus, and Diana, cradle to the grave rendered to her but love and childlike confidence a loving and a trusting honor. formed no part of that homage. To each one of us she is beautiEven Flora, the brightest and most ful as the Rose of Sharon, stately charming of the heathen deities, as the cedar of Lebanon, and fair failed to inspire her votaries with as the olive tree in the plain, yet affection. The first women before most sweet and gracious to us her whom the children of men bowed children. Hence we joyfully pay with loving heads, was she who be- her tribute and homage, and no neath the shadow of the redeeming modern devotion is so sweet in its Cross had assuined in their regard associations, or so dear to the heart the sacred name of Mother. And of the child of Mary, as the beausince that hallowed hour when tiful month of May. Mary the Mother of Jesus stood When the orb of day rises over the face of nature, and reveals one of the nuns, having been to trees and flowers and shrubs put- Jerusalem on a pilgrimage, brought ting forth their early blossoms and with him on his return a small creating a new verdure, then as- black statue of the Blessed Virgin cend from millions of pure souls a which had touched the famed image sweet odor of prayer and of praise of our Lady of Loretto. Placing to the throne of the Virgin of Is- it in a little oratory he made a pracrael, the Queen of May; and when tice of never leaving or entering his the glorious planet sinks in “coral house without first paying his reand pearly hues” casting its golden spects to “ Sa chère Dame." At sheen over the fair earth, again his death he bequeathed his dear does incense and a sweet oblation statue to his sister at the convent, rise from countless hearts devoted with the proviso that the public to Mary. Virgins come with fresh should be allowed entrance to that flowers to adorn her altars; the part of the church in which it was voices of children unite in canticles placed. The statue was placed over of praise in her honor; widows de- the High Altar, and a door was posit at her feet the cross they have opened from the church to the street, been called upon to bear. From so as to admit the townspeople, all, the homage is deep, sincere and who flocked to the shrine of the hearty, and tendered with glad or “Knight's Lady.” Thirty-two miraconsoled hearts. Who shall num- cles rewarded their faith. .. ber the miracles in nature and of When the book was found the Sugrace, wrought in answer to these periors of the convent at once redevotions ?
solved to discharge their obligaIt was
our privilege to assist tions in relation to the statue, which some years ago at the devotions was taken from the choir and again for the month of May in the pri- placed over the High Altar. It vate chapel of a convent in a small was arranged that during the ensutown of Northern France. A few ing month of May one miracle weeks before the first of the month should be read in the church at the an old volume bad been discovered devotions of each day. Again did which when freed from the accumu- the pious inbabitants of the town lated dust of more than a century, hasten, like their ancestors of five proved to be a record of miracles, centuries before, to pay their homproperly attested, wrought through age to the Lady of Loretto, and the mediation of our Lady of Lor- again did she manifest her power. etto in connection with a small A child, five years of age, fell one black statue, which in its quaint evening from a window of the third old niche stood unnoticed in a cor- story of a house on to the large ner of the nun's choir.
clumsy stones, the common pavePlıysicians and mayors had ap- ment of towns in the north of pended their signatures to thirty- France. The little girl, a bruised two miraculous cures.
and panting mass, was carried in It was also found that the con- and laid upon a couch. A servant vent held the precious statue only was dispatched for a physician. on condition of its being exposed Having examined the child, he to public veneration.
turned to the half-distracted mother In the 13th century, when the and said : “ Madame, your child is good religious, under the name of dying; she is even now almost in * Servants of All,” devoted them- her agony; human skill can do selves to the care of sick and con- nothing now, but God may. The valescent pilgrims from the Holy whole town is talking of the miracuLand, a pious knight, the brother of lous statue sent"